Jennifer a on experience the big book aa meetings available online. Its the writing it down that helps trigger the release. Step four of aas twelvestep program of recovery is infamously the scary one, probably because its a crucial step towards effective and lasting recovery. Step 4 how it works relationships including sex 6465 sex conduct.
The worksheets were created by using the precise instructions in the big book to make taking the fourth step as easy and simple as possible. Next we launched out on a course of vigorous action, the first step of which is a personal housecleaning, which many of us had never attempted. Mike presents a big book study podcast and thoughts on recovery. Understanding step 4 of the 12 steps verywell mind. The following is a suggested format for a big book step study meeting with emphasis on the fourth step. This step follows a written inventory of our wrongs and it is critical to share this as soon as possible. We provide this study guide based on personal experience to help those following aa s 12 steps as outlined in the original big book, alcoholics anonymous aa. I have to write down all of my negative character traits. We, of alcoholics anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.
These 4th step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. An unofficial guide to the twelve steps, edited by dr. Nov 04, 20 4th step guide pages out of the big book awakening 12 step workbook book version august, 2006. Not long after he moved in i found his 4th step inventory and read it, this. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. In this step we admit to god, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong.
Breaking down step one of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. Regardless of how we do it the main thing is to watch for fear, anger, dishonesty and selfishness f. This is the official website of the general service office g. Fourth column instructions 1 read the big book from p. If you are using the fourth edition make sure you are on the correct page. Aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the big book comes alive duration. The 10 th step becomes our workhorse step all throughout the day. To take inventory in this respect we ought to consider carefully all personal relationships which bring continuous or recurring trouble. At this stage of the inventory proceedings, our sponsors come to the rescue. When you are first confronted with the concept of writing down your faults and past. Apr 27, 2020 alcoholic anonymous step five is often called confession. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this.
Originally introduced in the big book of alcoholics anonymous, the fourth step. We provide this study guide based on personal experience to help those following aas 12 steps as outlined in the original big book, alcoholics anonymous aa. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of. Sth step page 6 of 6 see pg 76 of the big book, read on and carry on. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. How many copies needed will depend on how many names the person has on their resentment. The aa big book says on eight different occasions that we write out this step. I listed my resentments on paper, but not necessarily in chronological order. This simply means taking an honest look at all of your good and bad character traits.
Origins of moral inventory aa the original way group. Fourth step inventory these fourth step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Whether we come through the doors of alcoholics anonymous or alanon family groups chances are we bring a lifetime of stinking thinking with us. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. The 10 th step inventory can be done using your 4 th step inventory, a journal, a balance sheet, or it can be done right out of the big book pg 8485. Again, are they talking about just sex, or actual entire relationships. When the time was right for me, it seemed as if the pen in my hand had a direct connection to my mind, and the memories of a lifetime just poured out onto the page. Relationships in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps. For them, we hope these pages will prove so convincing that no further authentication will be necessary. The guide has a very good set of general directions for doing a 4th step. Aas twelve step program is built on a foundation of spiritual.
When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. Sth step page 4 of 6 sex problem list drafted from big book pg. They look at initially our sex or romantic relationships but the. These step study guides and worksheets have been used by thousands of aas, nas, alanons, oa overeaters, cas, gas and other 12 step recovery program members that use the 12 steps as instructed in the book, alcoholics. How have i done the things ive resented in column 2 to the person ive listed in. Mar 03, 2015 aa speakers joe and charlie working the 4th step the big book comes alive duration. To be able to start on this step, the previous three steps must of course have been. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step. Read read about the relationship sex conduct inventory 7 paragraphs 68 70.
Since the overall philosophy of alcoholics anonymous is that alcoholism is just a symptom of a spiritual disease, the real problem is in character flaws that need. The fourth step, like the whole of recovery, is a process not an event. The aa the original way 4th step inventory is an assets and liabilities type of 4th step. Were you undependable as a friend, breaking off relationships without any explanation when someone or something better seemed to come along. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. When you take inventory, you take notes or write down all that you have on hand. Big book step study step 4 turnarounds soberrecovery. See inventory guide sheet on the next page to use as a guide while writing. May 15, 2016 the fourth step, like the whole of recovery, is a process not an event. Alcoholics anonymous is often referred to as a 12step program, and aa is the basis for many other 12step programs that have been established. The big book of alcoholics anonymous specifically mentions the importance of putting the aspects of the 4th step down in pen and paper. I always ask what about the 3rd step decision to begin a new relationship with god.
These 12 steps are outlined in chapter 5, how it works, of the big book. This 4th step consists essentially of one page that is duplicated as needed. Aa speakers joe and charlie bills story the big book comes alive duration. The first time i did a 4th step in aa i hated everything about it. My only suggestion would be that anyone i work with finish their fourth step, especially the sex inventory, before considering a new romantic relationship. Download pamphlets and handouts to use in big book group sessions our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. Selfesteem, security, ambitions, pocket book, personal relationships. To complete the fourth step the last manifestation of self we inventory is. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous.
My partner has been sober for almost 8 years and in a relationship with me for 2 12. First, list each of your intimate relationships, maybe all of your relationships with others, including god. Hear recovered addict and big book mucker, cameron f. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory big book.
My amends list big book pg 67 no we need more action, without which we find that faith without works is dead. The steps helped each of the cofounders of aa in their own recovery from alcoholism and have continued to help countless. Before each fourth column, consider in paragraph form how have i done the things ive. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us.
When we met i read the big book and a looked into aa online. This request is not an arbitrary one but has been proven to be essential in establishing a sound foundation for recovery. The 4th step inventory is perhaps one of the most wellknown pieces of twelvestep programs. This post was originally published on aa beyond belief. God please help me see the truth about my conduct in relationships.
Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. The 4th step inventory is perhaps one of the most wellknown pieces of. Aa speakers joe and charlie we agnostics the big book comes alive duration. Relationships in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Bob d and polly p session 7 step 4, fear and sex inventory duration. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
We hope it will assist you in completing your personal inventory. Doing the 12 steps is also referred to as working the steps, because it requires. If we have been thorough about our personal inventory, we have written. These step study guides and worksheets have been used by thousands of aa s, nas, alanons, oa overeaters, cas, gas and other 12 step recovery program members that use the 12 steps as instructed in the book, alcoholics. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory. Please print 2 sides on one sheet of paper sheet 1 side.
In the fourth step of aa, it states that you must make a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself. This does not imply either approval of or endorsement by this organization which, i understand, feels alcoholics. Aas are often asked what is the difference between defects of character in step six and shortcomings in step seven. Skip this instruction if column one is not a person. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step inventory workshop. Step 4 big book alcoholics anonymous chapter 5, pp 63.
Finally, just as 12step programs emphasize the importance of making a written inventory, so, too, it is important to write down these relationship inventories. All page numbers in this fourth step inventory workshop, refer to the third edition of the book alcoholics anonymous. I am getting stuck on understanding my turnarounds, especially the selfseeking. Its actually really exciting, because its the first day of a new life. I didnt even have to write anything else to feel bad. Alcoholic anonymous step five is often called confession. Many of us feel that we have two primary textbooks in aa, this one and of course the book titled alcoholicsanonymous, called by many the big book. The fourth step of alcoholics anonymous is an excellent example of the apprehension that you can feel in trying to make a breakthrough in your sobriety. Resentment inventory prompt sheet here is a list of people, institutions and principles that may be helpful in your resentment inventory. Just follow the directions on this inventory out of the big book, youll discover what they.
Originally introduced in the big book of alcoholics anonymous, the fourth step states that we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. To show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of this book. Fourth step inventory general directions by anonymous members of alcoholics anonymous buy paper and pen and start writing. Relationship in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. What this step really asks of the member is much deeper and thorough than anyone may realize at the outset, but with a little diligence and support from a. The 4th step in alcoholics anonymous asks members to make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Personal relations is my deep seated idea of what this type of relationship. Step four of aas twelve step program of recovery is infamously the scary one, probably because its a crucial step towards effective and lasting recovery. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. The big book helped guide me through this process, and though i. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the big. The aa big book suggest that we take steps four and five immediately after step three.
Column 4 the inventory was ours, not the other mans. That is, this inventory cannot and should not be an oral inventory. Relationship in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps. Step 4 big book step study step 4 turnarounds hi, im looking for replies from those who have done step 4 exactly as it is written in the big book. Although the traditions inventory on the following pages could be used on its own, it is suggested that you use this inventory as part ofin combination with step four of the twelve steps. To view this printable aa step worksheet, click the orange button. Look at each relationship and answer these nine questions ref p. Though our decisionstep 3 was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once fast followed by a.
There is a saying in the 12step programs that recovery is a process, not an event. The first step of anything is a beginning, so the first step of the alcoholics anonymous 12 steps is the beginning of your recovery process. All page numbers in this fourth step inventory workshop. Aa the original way 12 step guide aa the original way group. Not only is this essential when it comes time to move on to step five, but it can also serve as a reference point for seeing how the relationship changes over the months and years of. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of 2 step 4. Our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. A fourth study guides are distilled right out of the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Or were you afraid not to fight because of pressure from your father or.
Quotations from alcoholics anonymous and the twelve steps and twelve traditions are with permission of a. Nov 20, 2019 there is a saying in the 12 step programs that recovery is a process, not an event. People father step mother step sisters step brothers step aunts uncles cousins clergy police lawyers judges doctors employers employees coworkers in. Relationships and sex in the fellowship workshop duration. Step four of aas twelvestep program of recovery is infamously the scary one. They comfort the melancholy one by fi rst showing him that his. Just the mere act of writing down the names of the people in my life was painful. Select your sponsor, or a minister being sure it is one who understands the problem, not one who will moralize at you, or a doctor, or a closemouthed. Videos or graphic images may not be downloaded, copied or duplicated without the express written permission of alcoholics anonymous world services, inc. Jul 06, 2005 everything contained in the fourth step inventory worksheets is directly from the book alcoholics anonymous. First, list each of your intimate relationships, maybe all of your relationships. The aa cleveland district office has put together the following fourth step guide and was taken directly from the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Mike on experience the big book aa meetings available online.
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